Here are a few red flags that social media dominates your life
Most people these days know how to use the new technology and social media to connect to other people. Using our PC’s, laptops, smartphones and tablets, getting in touch with our old friends and loved ones and meeting new people is the way to go these days. With the advent of social media websites such as Facebook and Twitter, connecting people has never been this effortless.
But too much of anything is bad, and there are times when you go overboard in using social media. If you are tweeting or posting Facebook status just within minutes and neglecting your real-life activities as well as you’re own well-being, it means you’re close to being addicted. It seems you can’t live without social media, and this is now a valid cause for concern.
Here are a few signs that social media can take over your life:
1. Picking fights on social media
Don’t ever think of posting a Facebook status (or a comment) or a tweet especially when you are angry, frustrated, drunk or fatigued. Or an online warfreak. Remember what you will post might have a greater chance to get viral in the wrong way. You’ll just be consumed by engaging in online fights especially with people you don’t personally know, and it’s really a waste of time. You’ll get more serious repercussions from picking fights online: you may get tracked, receive hate mails or even death threats just from posting and tweeting expletive-filled tirades you regularly post against other users.
Admit it, most of us check our Facebook and Twitter every now and then. But if you spend more than 20 minutes a day on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc. — after you wake up, before lunch, during workhours, after lunch, before dinner, and before going to sleep, when you go to the bathroom to relieve yourself — then a red flag is raised. It’s all right to check your Facebook or Twitter, but too much of it is taking you away from your schoolwork, your job, your real-life daily activities, and the real people around you who deserve more of your attention.
You don’t wish yourself to say “Not right now, I’m on Facebook” to your child, your spouse, your parents, or your friend, right? Address this issue as soon as quickly or risk losing touch with the real people who matter to you the most.
You may even neglect your own well-being because you’re busy checking on Facebook. You skip your meals, forget to take a bath at the right time, or forget to take your medicine regularly etc. because you cannot let go of your smartphone. If you reach to this point, you should seek professional help as early as possible.
Sometimes, many of us cannot help posting the details of our lives that should have been kept to ourselves alone. You reveal something deeply personal on your Facebook status, post racy photos of yourself on Instagram, or upload an intimate video on YouTube (you shouldn’t have recorded it in the first place).
Remember again, that what you’ll post on social media will have a greater chance of becoming viral. This holds true especially with private photos and videos which would go to the hands of many people you don’t even know. These faceless people have the potential of ruining your life. And you never wanted it to happen in the first place, right? Lesson: keep private things private.
4. Too much “selfies”
Selfies have been the practice of many people since a long time ago since cameras were invented, even before they were called selfies. But ever since the arrival of smartphones and tablets equipped with front-facing cameras, the selfie has taken over social media, particularly Instagram. Selfies themselves are harmless, and it’s all right to be vain once in a while, or feel good about yourself. But if you take more than a hundred selfies a day, it could be a sign of desperation. Taking too much of selfies and getting too overly concerned if you’re going to look good in them is a sign
of seeking a short-term gratification at the expense of more important goals.
One recent study even confirmed that taking selfies is a sign of mental illness. This disorder is called “selfitis,” a form of obsessive compulsive desire to take selfies and then post them on social media sites to compensate for their lack of self-esteem, or bridge a gap in intimacy.
Too much selfies could also get you into trouble — and a selfie done in inappropriate places and circumstances could bring you into controversy. Some people take selfies during funerals, which disrespectful enough. One Florida high schooler received a backlash after snapping a selfie at school while his pregnant teacher, who was at the background, was going into early contractions. A school teacher in Georgia was even fired from her job because of her nude selfies.
Below is a photo of an Alabama teen taking a selfie in the Auschwitz concentration camp. After she posted this photo on Twitter, she faced harsh criticisms that led her to set her account into private.
Social media is a wonderful tool to connect your friends and loved ones as well as to find new friends through common interests and friends. Social media is even useful in businesses and in reaching out to various good causes. However, anything that goes out of control can ruin your life, and so can social media especially when it’s abused.
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